One of my vision improvement clients was put in eyeglasses at a young age, like I was myself. He grew up wearing these “eye-cages” throughout his childhod and young adulthod. Recently he told me he’s had feelings of resentment that others around him, who may not be nearly as healthy as he is, seem to have no vision problems. It doesn’t seem fair — here he is working out, eating in a healthy way, focusing on learning new things, yet his vision limitations can seem so big at times. Why isn’t anyone else having to deal with this?
Since I’ve felt the same feelings, I could completeley relate to this. First, we don’t know anyone else’s story. Someone you see on the street who looks normal could have an artifical leg! Or even if their vision is clearer than mine, perhaps they’re overweight and have high blood pressure, or have other medical problems which aren’t obvious to me. As the saying goes “Better the devil you know” — I’ve been dealing with nearsightedness since I was probably 3 (I got glasses at age 5), so I understand it and know what to do about it. I don’t want to trade it for someone else’s problems, which might be a lot worse!
Another aspect of this for me is that every challenge is a gift, to learn more about myself, perhaps to get me to change direction, and to help me grow. This has certainly been true for me with improving my vision. I didn’t need the lesson of learning how to stay fit and honor my physical body. Unfortunately many people don’t learn this lesson until they contract a serious disease from years of not taking care of their body. I needed to learn how to reach out, to connect with others. I’m well aware that “short-sightedness” is not reaching all the way out visually (as I groan inwardly at my limitation being so obvious to everyone). I needed to learn that it is safe to see clearly, not only seeing my environment but also seeing myself, my good points and my not-so-good ones.
Since I’ve always loved to learn, and my vision is teaching me more than any other situation in my life has, I am not planning to walk away from the lesson. I think one of the main reasons I’m here is to learn and understand, then to turn around and use what I’ve learned to help others, and I don’t mean only with regard to vision. I see myself going off to Life School every day, my books firmly under my arm, ready for the new adventure. What is Life teaching you today?
I wore strong glasses, then contact lenses, from age 5 into my 40s. While making many mistakes, eventually l learned how to improve the way I use my eyes and to see in a more relaxed, healthy manner. It is my pleasure to coach others to do the same. Visit me at https://NancyLNeff.com.