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Don’t Just Look, Connect!

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When I started vision improvement 15 years ago and thought about my visual habits, I was dismayed to find I wasn’t truly looking at anything. I’d take a big visual gulp of an entire scene, then examine that in my mind like a photograph. I had to learn to really look, in a curious interested way, exploring the various changing details before me. If you don’t look, you won’t see!

The thick glasses I wore as a child separated me from my environment, and my fearful attitude separated me even more. I did not want to connect with anything around me — it didn’t feel safe! I especially did not want to connect with other people.

One of my vision teachers encouraged those of us with a myopic pattern to let our visual energy go all the way out to the blurry object in the distance. Maybe it was a tree across a field. “The tree isn’t blurry out there”, he’d say. “It’s the interpretation in your brain that’s blurry”. He told us to pretend the tree was looking at us too, and to feel that connection.

In looking for a picture to accompany this article, I found many images of mothers connecting with their babies, or lovers gazing into each other’s eyes. We can connect with what or whom we look at, whatever it is, animate or not. Animals and plants and even rocks have their own energy, and when we take the time to look at them we share our energy together.

When I’m distracted and not fully present, I can still fall into that glancing and gulping bad visual habit. Then I have to remind myself to slow down and focus. And when I do, I find a fascinating dynamic world just waiting to connect with me, and delight me.

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Author: Nancy

I wore strong glasses, then contact lenses, from age 5 into my 40s. While making many mistakes, eventually l learned how to improve the way I use my eyes and to see in a more relaxed, healthy manner. It is my pleasure to coach others to do the same. Visit me at https://NancyLNeff.com.

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Nancy L. Neff

Celes, I sympathize with your mother’s condition. I see some elderly people withdrawing from the world, NOT wanting to connect, and vision loss is just one symptom of this. I’d do what you can to keep her interested in Life, visually or otherwise — look for the joy, for what makes her laugh, or delights her. Here’s an article I wrote on cataracts which might interest you: http://www.iblindness.org/641/can-cataracts-be-healed-naturally/. It sounds like she’s comfortable without her glasses, and this should be your guide, You don’t want her to strain. She’s very lucky she has you to help her.


My mother who is 87 years old had suffered from cataract she was asked by our friends and opticians to go for operation on the left eye. Having heard lot of people cured from operation we took her for operation but to our bad luck the operation was unsuccessful. Now the eye surgeon she has to operate her right eye, which we refused as the operation for cataract had ruined her eye sight.

Is there a chance for her to see ? Sometimes she cannot hear properly and does not know how to go into our room. Earlier she was shown to a psychiatrist who used to give her heavy dose which she could not bear. She used to forget sometimes whether it is morning or evening. . Also her senses have become weak.

Is there a cure for her eyesight as I read lot of interesting articles on this subject. Sometime you may not believe I asked to read big numbers without her glasses she could read nos. 1 to 30 without her glasses at a distance of 2 ft. I tried this method by reading one of your articles.

Could you advise how long she should undergo reading this way?



Celes Fernandes

Could you help me in sending the EYE CHART.


Nancy L. Neff

You can google “printable eye chart” or snellen chart and find one on-line.

Celes Fernandes

Thank you very much and have done it.

Nancy L. Neff

Great! Let us know how you do with it.